Good sex isn’t about tricks or bravado. For men in Aotearoa, it often comes down to connection, confidence, and general health. Whether you’re in a long-term relationship or starting something new, there are straightforward ways to improve things.
Get the Basics Right
Sexual performance reflects overall wellbeing. If your body’s under strain, it’ll show in the bedroom.
Sleep: poor sleep lowers testosterone and energy.
Alcohol: a couple of drinks might ease nerves, but heavy sessions often lead to weaker erections.
Exercise and diet: staying active and eating well boost circulation, stamina, and confidence.
Talk More
Many Kiwi men shy away from these conversations, but good sex relies on kōrero. Asking what feels good, giving feedback, and being open builds trust and takes away the guesswork.
Change It Up
Routine is comfortable, but it can get stale. Small changes can help:
Try mornings, when testosterone is naturally higher.
Spend more time on foreplay, not just penetration.
Explore new positions or settings to bring back novelty.
Don’t Avoid the Awkward Stuff
Performance anxiety, erectile dysfunction, or premature ejaculation can weigh heavily. Ignoring them only makes things worse. In New Zealand, treatments like PHARMAC-funded sildenafil, topical therapies, and discreet men’s health clinics mean there’s no need to put up with it.
The Mental Side
Stress, low mood, and anxiety are some of the biggest libido killers. Addressing mental health — through counselling, mindfulness, or simply reducing pressure — often transforms sexual confidence.
How Mr. Helps
At Mr., we see the bigger picture. From blood tests to check hormones and cardiovascular health, through to ED treatments or strategies for performance anxiety, we offer clear, stigma-free support.
Key Takeaways
Better sex starts with looking after your health.
Communication and trust matter more than technique.
Small changes keep intimacy fresh.
Don’t ignore conditions like ED or PE — effective treatments are available in NZ.
- Mr. provides testing, treatment, and support to help men build confidence and connection.
Dr Afraz Adam
Chief Medical Officer
MBBS. FRNZCUC
